Every man has been there, you are at a bar or just strolling the street of downtown, when you see her. She is the most beautiful woman you have ever laid eyes on, but how could you possible grab her attention. While it might seem like an impossible and daunting task, here are some guaranteed ways to make sure you grab her eye. You want to make sure that you keep her comfortable through your initial greeting all the way through to when you say your goodbyes. To do this requires you to have a certain representation of yourself at the ready. Following this advice is going to have you prepared for anytime of day or any circumstance.
The first thing a woman is going to notice about you is the way you are dressed. Whether it is intentional or not, a woman is going to judge you on what you are wearing, and it is going to affect the way she perceives you and your intentions. How you present yourself will most certainly affect her desire to talk and interact with you, and the way she perceives many of your actions will be directly correlated to how she views you as individual. If you are dressed like a slob, she is going to see you as a slob, and it is going to be very hard to change her first impression of you. A very important reminder for you guys out there is to always make sure the world is seeing you for who you feel you are. You cannot demand respect dressed in hole riddled cargo shorts, flip flops and a white tank, it is just not going to happen. So, before you even step foot out of the house in the morning, just assume you are going to meet a beautiful lady and wear some nice shoes and comb your hair.
You want to start off by making eye contact. This is going to be your most valuable tool for getting and keeping her attention. It is going to engage her in what you have to say, and boost your confidence doing it. You can convey numerous emotions and meanings with just a look, and it is the most versatile form of nonverbal communication. Eye contact is going to grab her attention and keep it hooked to you, and it is going to make her feel as though you are listening to her and caring about what she has to say. Though, as with all things, moderation is key, if you keep her engaged too long she might start to feel uncomfortable or as though you are challenging her. Don’t forget to read body language and take a moment to look around at your surroundings for topics to discuss.
Follow up by smiling at her, but do not force it. Studies show that it makes a man instantly more attractive to a woman, and makes you seem more relaxed. If you are feeling nervous about approaching her, just put on a happy face. It is going to diffuse the situation and make you both slip easily into comfortable conversation. One of the most difficult obstacle a man must overcome is getting a woman to trust you, and by having an easygoing smile, it makes you much more approachable and trustworthy. A smile is the key to a great first impression no matter the situation or where you are.
You want to continue by being funny. A good sense of humor is a great way to get her to notice you, whether you are talking one on one or are hanging out with some friends near her, it is going to be one of the things she remembers most about you. When you are making a group laugh and they pay attention to the things you say it is going to make her notice. It is going to show dominance and make her feel that you know how to have a good time and demand attention from your peers. Women love to laugh as well, so if you have already gotten her into a conversation, try making some lighthearted jokes. It will relax her and make her feel less threatened. Having her laugh is a great way to make her remember you as someone who makes her feel happy as well, so if all goes according to plan the next conversation you will have will already be off to a great start. Keep it appropriate though, you do not want to make the mistake of saying something that offends her or makes her feel as though you are crude and weird.
Finally, and probably most importantly, be confident. It really is the key to a great first impression and all the advice above is going to be harder for you without it. It is going to take any doubt a woman has about you and turn it into certainty. It is going to make her feel more open and less anxious about meeting a new person, and it is going to get her to put down her walls a little more, so you guys can have a more natural and engaging conversation. Your confidence is going to keep you in control of your encounter and help you steer the conversation in your favor. A woman is not going to give you the time of day if you are a babbling mess. The more confident you are the more likely you are to be able to not only get but keep her attention on you through out what you have to say.
Once you get her attention, and make sure you have her at ease, then its all about keeping her talking. Do not try and force any one conversation topic but instead let it flow naturally from the both of you. Make sure you are not hogging the conversation either, keep the lines open for the both of you, so she feels engaged and like you care for what she has to say. Find some common ground, where you both can add to the conversation easily and see where it takes you. The approach is always the hardest part of meeting a woman, but by following these basic steps you will set yourself up for a successful first meeting.
